Over the last twenty years or so, as my spiritual and human life journeys have unfolded, I was horrified to realize that at least 70% of the spiritual (New Age) women whom I met were survivors of childhood sexual, emotional or physical abuse, or all three. Astounding numbers. Woman after woman I got to know personally or professionally had horrific abuse stories from their childhoods, teen years, or older. These were lovely, spiritually and energetically enlightened women.
I noticed that there was a profound discrepancy between their spiritual lives and balance and their emotional lives and balance. Also, I noticed that, by and large, New Age spirituality had a fatal flaw. In many of its teachings, teachers, systems, it offered rapid acceleration in spirituality and consciousness but neglected to properly address deep or severe emotional wounding, and how that affects the mental health and daily and spiritual lives of its followers.
Or how important it was to maintain an emotional – spiritual balance. Until these last four or five years, New Age spirituality seemed to imply that advanced spirituality would wipe away all of one’s emotional and psychological damage. And for awhile, it does. It fills that huge emotional painful void and makes the memories, depression, dysfunction, and pain go away – for a time.
IN TRUTH, IN ADDITION TO MY OWN HISTORY WITH CHILDHOOD EMOTIONAL TRAUMA, THIS IS WHY I BECAME A PSYCHOSPIRITUAL HEALER AND A HEALER FOR HEALERS. AT THE TIME, 2010, I HAD NEVER SEEN A SPIRITUAL PROFESSIONAL SPECIALIZING IN VERY DEEP EMOTIONAL AND PSYCHOLOGICAL TRAUMA AND HEALING WORK TO COUNTERBALANCE SPECIFICALLY THE JOURNEY TO ADVANCED SPIRITUALITY AND CONSCIOUSNESS.
It became very clear to me the reason for so many people become obsessed by, even codependent with modern spirituality. It not only fills their soul, it becomes their emotional and psychological lifeline. This is VERY dangerous. Sooner or later, there will be such a glaring disparity between the dark energies of unhealed emotions and light energies of spiritual growth, the psyche, and mind, like two tectonic plates building pressure against each other, they will experience a psychological earthquake. And the person begins to come apart emotionally.
I cannot tell you how many times I have known this would happen to someone or it did happen to someone. Or for how many of my clients and students, this was our starting in their work with me – healing life-threatening emotional and psychological darkness. And, truthfully, this disparity happened to me in the late 1990s. I too thought my spiritual gifts and rapidly consciously evolving self would never have to confront my darkness – severe emotional and sexual abuse as a child. How wrong I was.
This is a huge reason why I stayed alive during my dark times – to assist these people. I have always known, since I was very young, I am energetically different from most people. I have always known I had a bigger purpose than what I had accomplished to that point. I knew the Universe and I were very familiar with each other, and it had plans for me … if I could survive. If I could realize that all that horrendous darkness I endured would actually be an invaluable asset as a psychospiritual healer.
I knew the dark territory intimately. I knew how to heal it because I had healed, shifted and evolved my Self, myself. I knew spiritual people and spiritual teachers and healers needed powerful healers, in most cases, more powerful than themselves. And honestly, and literally life-purpose-ly speaking – I was born for this. Doing what I now do professionally is why I came to the planet – to heal, shift and evolve spiritually and energetically gifted people, and show them how to do it. And how to do it for other people.
I have become a champion of women over the years, particularly spiritual emotionally wounded women. Men, too, certainly. However, 75% of my students and clients have been and are women. A great number of them emotionally wounded women – wounded healers.
The Sacred Feminine and I have had our disagreements earlier in my life. Now I know I was being tested. And sometimes shamed for good reason. But it was my training to be an honorable and honoring human man who offers women unconditional safe haven and respect. And very powerful and dedicated assistance in not only healing their emotional trauma but living fulfilling spiritual and human lives, to energetically and spiritually evolve. And in becoming better spiritual professionals – and – fulfilling their life purpose. I can think of nothing more worthy as my own life purpose: honoring, respecting and assisting the Sacred Feminine and her representatives on planet earth.